http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IFsrSRBpgPY
Just thought it was interesting enough to share - a great drainage sequence - but you will see why it is not suitable for the "main" pages. :)
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~ H.S.
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Too Graphic for Main Site - Anal Fistula
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Wow....is it just me or did I see the doctor pull a turd out of that person's ass near the end? I hope this person feels a lot better now.
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Because I have Chron's disease, I live in constant fear of developing one of these. I think that I'd rather be water-board (is that right?) tortured to DEATH than get one. That is scary stuff Halph.
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Wait, those and colostomy bags...my biggest fears in life.
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Yup, I am right there with you Inna sweetie. I've been told by too many doctors that a c-bag is in my future. Well, if so, I will be leaving flaming c-bags on their front steps just for making me stress about it all these years!
But seriously (ha ha - "but") those same doctors have wanted to take all my female organs out, claiming it *might* reduce my pain substantially. It's as if I would really choose to lose any hope of child birth on a *might*?!? C'mon, be real. It *might* also make things worse, given my proclivity to producing adhesions!
I need a baby. Any one willing to oven me one up? :) I can attest to being an amazing mother figure to other people's children, and would be even more so to my own!
~ H.S.
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Halph, I have a (just turned) 8 year old. I am through menopause now, just as I turn 39, so I would've done an in-vitro thing if we had known each other some years ago! I always imagined doing that. It would have to be your egg and your man's sperm, nothing to do with me, but I always thought that was the most precious gift anyone could give to someone. Of course, I got too old, then went through menopause at an almost world record early age, so unless you want Phoebe (everyone, just so there are no issues here, I AM JUST KIDDING)you are s.o.l., lol!
I get all googly around babies now. Right after we had Phoebe, Dale got a vasectomy, as we believe in zero population growth (replace yourself and your mate, conserve, our resources for future generations...too bad more people don't think this way, of course you get more government $, the more kids you have, right?). Anyway, we had our 2, and we were done, we were happy. Then I went into menopause. My periods got heavy for about 1 year, then 1 month, they just stopped, no warning whatsoever. So now, I have that "you always want what you can't have" thing. The thing that I miss most about tiny babies is breastfeeding. Those times in the middle of the night when all is quiet in the house, and you are nursing this little life that depends on you for everything. Then their little eyes get all droopy, and they slowly stop nursing, a little bit of milk runs down their cheek, and that moment is burned into your mind forever. Nice.
So, if you really do want a baby, keep on keeping on, because all of it is worth it, even taking your 12 year old out for a day of beauty, and coming home with a sixteen year old (looks anyway). Even homework (well, maybe not.) The worst part of parenting? All those years that we spent in school, waiting for it to end, never wanting to wake up at the ass crack of dawn and eat when you don't feel like it, get ready in a cold house, and head out into the lion's den of teachers that Pink Floyd wrote "Another Brick In The Wall" about. Well, when your kids hit school age, YOU have to get up BEFORE them! And you have to clear the cobwebs out enough to feed them something more substantial than a bowl of cereal, and worst of all? The crazy parents that think that they are the only ones that have to drop their kids off at school and be somewhere on time, so they drive like bats out of hell, park in the way, let their kids out of the car in dangerous spots, right as you are pulling up, risking their life and your mental stability after having hit their kid. I am so suprised that hasn't happened at my kiddos school yet. Anyway, school years suck. Especially when they are young and have hair down to their butt, making it impossible for them to do it themselves, being anal about good breakfasts, and raising spoiled kiddos that get their clothes laid out for them every morning! (My own fault, I know!) And don't EVEN get me started on lunches for school. The hot lunches that they serve in this scool district are shameful, but you can only come up with so many different variations on "cold lunches". It's just one giant nightmare, I tell you. I hated school when I was there, and I hate it now! Once my youngest hits middle school/junior high, it's all them, they can wake me up 10 mins before we have to leave, that way I can throw on a robe and get a cup of coffee, and if I break down, "oh well". lol!
So, still want a baby? Just give it back when it hits the 18month-2yr period! lol!
Love ya Halph~Tif
7 days til Dale's job starts! Woo-hoo! And we will only be making 6K less a year than b4!!!! The only stressor; our insurance will change. The good news is that it goes into effect the month after he starts, so that will be June 1st! Wow, that was cutting it close, cobra was running out fast! But how, HOW I ask you will I deal with my kids not being in school all day, no car until we get a few checks as Dale will need our one and only vehicle. Plus I have had him for over a year to split the entertainment of the two spider monkeys (kids). AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! I think I'll have to do some bargaining with my mom to use her car 2-3 days per week!Posted 1 year ago # -
I am 37.My son is 18 this year and my daughter 16,but I have been pondering on whether to take my last chance at getting in one more.
Then,I go to the supermarket and hear screaming kids,and think,'No,thanks!'
I reckon,I'll wait for the grandkids.
But back to the subject of the rather nasty anal fistula,my mate had this;or at least I think that is what he had.He said it originated from an ingrowing hair and created a channel that keeps refilling with pus and needing draining,often onvolviing a surgical procedure.Is that what this is????
Knowing my love of pus,he once said I could maybe have a go at it...then backed out-we are good friends,but not quite that close.Wish I had insisted now.
He has had surgery,I'd imagine along these lines,which,he believes SHOULD stop it from recurring-i Must check up to see if it has reappeared at all.Posted 1 year ago # -
Oh!and on the subject of colostomy/urostomy bags,apart from the unfortunate sufferers of such illnesses as Chron's(I feel for you,inaffitoften),It is those 'hot' ladies and gents who are so liberal minded and enjoy rough anal sex,and plenty of it,that will be looking and feeling not quite so hot when changing their poo bag in a few years.
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HS.. and others... I have a friend who said that a colostomy was a blessing. They didn't suffer the pain anymore. He was as bad as anyone the gastro guy had seen... very diseased. Maybe it is something to look forward to... or perhaps he is just a different kind of person. I would hope for anyone suffering pain that has to have major pain killers often that something would come along to eliminate the cause of the pain so a more normal life without pain could be enjoyed again. Sincerely...I do hope that.
Oh and Kat? Yep... wait for grandkids... better than your own. =)
HS... one more thing... I had my female stuff yanked and it helped more than I ever thought it would. Of course I had kids and my tubes tied so I wasn't giving up anything really. I was at menopause age as well. But losing enough blood to require a transfusion wasn't fun and wasn't something my docs wanted to do on a regular basis.
Sometimes having a child does fix things down there. God bless ya whatever happens.
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So that's what a fistula looks like & the cure for it. I'll pass on that illness.
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had a fistula about 4 years ago. didn't take care of my Divaticulatis. told my Dr. thaqt there were sounds coming out where there are not suppost to have sounds. and my urine was a sick shade of brown,LOL!! now I have a lovely 7" scar. I have learned that when there is pain, not to ignore it. hard way to learn a leason.
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a couple o'things...
1. here's another vid that is not likely to make it on the main site, of a bartholin cyst being drained. it wouldn't bother me at all -- i am more bothered by some of the gratuitous gore we've posted lately. but, what the hey...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ek7VOwULmVA2. i had a colostomy for about 3 years. they are easily reversed, and they are not the end of the world. i am pretty sure you can infer NOTHING about lifestyle/attitude/political preference from their presence... i don't know where you got the idea, kat, that people who like anal sex end up with colostomies -- and i don't even WANT to know why "liberal-minded" people in kat-land end up with urostomies! [?!]
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My husband had very debilitating Crohn's for years and ended up having an ileostomy. He had it when I married him. He's done extensive counseling for people with serious Crohn's and having the surgery when your really need it is a wonderful thing. You can have a baby, have a normal sex life, and stop suffering from the horrific pain and anguish of Crohn's. A person with a stoma and an ostomy is not a bag of shit walking down the street; they are people who have undergone a truly miraculous procedure that makes it possible for them to live a normal life. Nobody, but nobody, would ever know that you have an ostomy. There are even nurses who specialize in teaching you how to care for your stoma (the new opening in your side). One thing I do counsel is that you NOT get a J-Pouch if you have Crohn's...maybe for serious Ulcerative Colitis. My husband's gastroenterologist studied with Dr. Crohn at Mt. Sinai Hospital here in NYC. If you have any questions, feel free to ask me.
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Wow, sex, that was very informative, and if I ever need to, I will take you up on your offer to pick your brain regarding all of this. Thanks to both of you (sex and prof) for making it not sound like a death sentence.
prof, you are just getting better and better, lol! "kat-land", lmao.Posted 1 year ago # -
That was so gnarly.
As for people who like anal sex, they won't need colostomy bags. They just damage their sphincters and tend to have anal leakage or difficulty controlling their bowels.
As for the baby thing, I feel ya. Whenever I see a handsome man holding a baby/toddler, my ovaries twitch a little.
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BTW I am Christina. Can't figure out how to change my name or picture.
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I am in tears reading these posts. sexandzitz that was an amazing post. My brother in law had cancer in this area and had to wear a colostomy bag as well and hated it. The problem was he did not know how to use it properly. Once he was taught he said that he now hardly notices it and is thankful the pain is not as bad. It may sound cliche but he is just happy to be alive. This vid was great as I could not fathom on how it was done as my mother was reluctant to describe it to me
Halph do everything you can to have a child and tell your doctor's to stay clear of your gear. When it is deemed impossible then you know you did every thing you could.I don't even know you and I would be willing to do this for you. When I was younger I was asked and agreed to the terms. It did not go through however and I was a little sad. Alas I am also in menopause and my child bearing days are over. But I have two beautiful girls to keep me company.
Christina I tried to change my..dripper? It came from a momentary lapse of reason!
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dripper & ThatIsNotaCello (Christina)...You can't change your user id, (you can go by a "nickname on the main page, unless that's changed.) I just changed my pix & found that it's working. At the top of this page, you'll see your user id highlighted. Click that to pull up your info. You should see a tab that you'll need to click on. That's where you can upload your new avator(sp?). You'll see it within seconds if you got it right. It's the same deal on the main page. Experiment all ya want!!!
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Thanks Puss...I will try that!
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dripper - I cannot express how your words have touched my heart. Thank you. Sometimes we need a little encouragement to keep facing the long days, and hold onto the leftover shreds of hope at the bottom of the basket.
And congratulations to you dripper and all who have figured out how to put up pictures! I love seeing faces, pets, and the various odd assortment that give tiny clues to who we are. Its really a lot of fun!
~ H.S.
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Wow...makes you glad you don't have these problems...
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Oh my god, makes my spinal fusions and gall bladder removal positively happy events. I would rather die than have that done round my back bum.
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First: "Kat-land!!!"
Second: I just found this on youtube last night and made a post asking Emil if he knew how/could edit out the labia in the beginning and the surgery after the drainage. I thought it was worth a shot. I always find something on the site after I make a post for it. I'm still trying to figure out this site--maybe one day I'll find something original to post. :-) A girl can dream.
Third: My grandfather had Crohn's Disease and I've always been afraid I'll get it too. My intestines can get a little unruly, but I've had no Crohn's symptoms so far. My grandpa had a colostomy, but we weren't close enough to discuss the disease. I'm relieved to hear some people see the colostomy as a good thing. I guess worrying about it won't do anything but stress me out.Posted 1 year ago # -
THAT was FUGLY!!!!! (shaking head rapidly) Now I've seen what my aunt went through with her fistula. I remember my cousins and I helping her with her Sitz Baths after her surgery. Long story short as possible; my aunt was a large woman with a big butt. I never thought her left hip could get any bigger. Any way I tried to Squeeze the pus out of it and quickly realized she needed to go to the emergency room. When we got her there, the ER doc sent her to surgery immediatley! Dr. cut a 3x3 in square on her hip near her leg. The doc said He had to dig pus and gunk out for 30 minutes.
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OK I have another...maybe its old?
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Halph - I've seen your posts on the 'main' site and tonight just happened to come into the forum and read through these posts. Mind you, I've NEVER been to this part of the site before but tonight something seemed to lead me here. Now I think I know what it was....
After reading your request for a child or surrogate, I felt I had to respond. First of all, I totally agree with dripper...tell the docs who want to remove your female parts to bite you. Stick with it and keep trying until you can't try anymore. I'm no 'bible thumper' by any means, but I do firmly believe that He has a plan for all of us. I say this because I'm an example...see...when I was very young, I was stupid and became pregnant at 17. I didn't know what to do and was rushed into a decision that I will regret to my dying day (and it wasn't adoption...you get the picture).. Although I'm now 40, every June 28th I remember what I did that horrible day. Anyway...the years passed and at 21 I got married. We were married for 14 horrible years but because I was so co-dependent, I couldn't let go. For 10 of those 14 years we tried to have children...we did it all. Everything from just watching my ovulation to clomid (oral meds to help create more follicles), injectible meds and artificial imsemination..we used his sperm and when that didn't work, we used a donor (in case there were problems with his), and finally in-vitro. We spent thousands and thousands of dollars and ended up with nothing but a worn out mind and exhausted body. Because we had spent so much money on these things, we couldn't afford adoption even if we wanted to. As we were going through this, I felt as though I was being punished for my decision at 17 and would never be able to have children of my own because of this. By this time, I was almost 35 years old and obviously my biological clock was ticking away...I finally resigned myself to the fact that I was never going to have the child I so desperately wanted and needed. I was truly a mess. I was horribly depressed, my marriage was in shambles and I was just exhausted. I won't lie...I thought of just ending it all many, many times. One day...out of the blue...I received a call from a close relative stating that her children were being taken by child services and she needed me right away. She was in a horrible situation involving drugs and an abusive husband and was too caught up in it to leave...she chose the drugs and the 'man' over her children. Over a 2 day period, I became 'insta-Mom' to the 2 most beautiful, wonderful and amazing children I could have ever asked for. Although it was a process to go through the proper legal channels and obtain final legal custody, I am now the proud parent of two beautiful babies. These children not only needed me, but I needed them...they gave me the courage to finally leave the bi-polar husband who was so horrible all of those years. The man who mentally, emotionally and physically abused me but I stayed with because of my own issues. If I had children with this man, I would be forever tied to him and have to worry that a biological child may inherit his illness or other traits. Now I don't have to concern myself with this at all...And I'm still a Mom. There is no way that I could love a biological child any more than I love my children. They are my life...the sun rises and sets with my children in my eyes. Although I spent many, many years living my darkest days, I now live in bright light...just my children and I. We have no connection to anyone therefore no need to be concerned about anything.
I realize that this has been a long post but I just wanted to tell you my story to show you that although we may not understand...and we may disagree with the way things are going...there is a plan for all of us. I know that it's hard to stomach and even harder to truly accept it but I tell you this to hopefully help you to continue to hope. Don't EVER give up hope. Even when all hope is gone (as mine was at one time), still go on. God knows what we need...even more than we do. God Bless you, Halph...you will definitely be in my thoughts and prayers. Peace
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Oh, and by the way...the anal fistula made my anus squeeze so tight, I think I made a diamond! LOL YIKES!!!
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Jodran1870, what a beautiful story! Congratulations on your mommyhood! and LOL about your "diamond"!!
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Dear jordan1870: Thank you. Thank you for sharing, thank you for caring, thank you for having the courage and the willpower to stay in this world and not give up. Thank you for retaining your sense of self and holding on to hope all those years you spent with that awful man. Thank you for being there to catch those two wonderful children who now call you Mom. If you had taken the easy road out all those years ago - who knows what would have happened to them? Yes, there is a plan for everyone, I believe in karma, preordained destiny, and all that wonderful stuff.
But I'd like to fire the contractor who drafted my plan - because I think he forgot that there actually has to be windows for them to open when the door gets shut!
:) Bless you jordan1870, and your family. I'm meant for something fantastic - sometimes that little grit of knowledge is all that keeps me tethered in reality.
~ H.S.
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popables - Thanks so very much! As of yesterday, I have been Mommy for six years exactly and every day brings more happiness..My babies are my life. Thank you, again, for your kind words.
Halph - Thank you so very much for your kind words. As I mentioned, there were times that I just didn't feel as though I could make it through. Obviously there was a bigger plan for me and I'm thankful that I stayed around to see how wonderful it really was/is. Please know that I truly DO care...I know exactly how you feel...and I'm more than willing to help if I can. So, if you ever need to chat or just cry, I'm here. I know we don't really know each other but I truly understand your feelings and will help any way possible. In the meantime, don't give up...keep your chin up and forge ahead..and I'll definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Peace
dripper - I just viewed the link you posted right above my post to Halph...OH MY DEAR LORD!!!! If ANY man came at me with THAT THING, I would RUN as far and as fast as I could!!! That is the ugliest thing I've ever seen!!! That would turn me against men FOREVER! YECH!!!! But...thanks for sharing! :) We all share the joy of weird/strange/odd things alike so...NEXT! :)
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